Do You Take Things Personally?
Some of the simplest truths I've learned along the way have the most profound impact, this one being;
What someone else does, how they act, and what they say are all manifestations of their inner "story," their unique perspective. On the other hand, our actions, reactions, and words reflect our own story. When we fill in the blanks, often with our narratives and conclusions, inner conflict occurs, leading us to take things personally rather than what is most likely.
Remember these four Letters, Q T I P:
QTIP stands for "Quit taking it personally."
As soon as you notice any physical and or emotional changes or the assumptions that are adding to or creating interpretive stories, follow these five steps:
Pause and Breathe: Cultivate a moment of stillness, allowing yourself the opportunity to access deeper levels of openness and presence.
Fact Check: Focus on the objective reality of what was said or occurred, anchoring yourself in the realm of facts.
Self-Reflection: What interpretations am I making? What assumptions underlie these narratives? What expectations am I projecting onto the situation?
Acknowledge and Validate: Embrace your humanity by acknowledging and validating your thoughts, emotions, and feelings. Rather than succumbing to self-criticism, utilize these moments as catalysts for introspection and growth. For instance, recognizing that a tendency to assume undervaluation stems from a deep-seated value of collaboration fosters understanding and self-compassion.
Focus on Self-Mastery: Redirect your focus towards what lies within your sphere of control – your own words, emotions, and actions.
Here’s the Great News
More often than not, it has nothing to do with you. If it does? You will be ready to make empowered choices with far more clarity, confidence, and resolve.
More often than not, the actions and words of others have little to do with you. And in the instances where they do, armed with this newfound perspective, you'll navigate the terrain of interpersonal dynamics with clarity, confidence, and unwavering resolve.
Embrace the liberating truth encapsulated in the acronym QTIP – Quit taking it personally. As you embark on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment, may you be guided by the light of understanding and enveloped in the warmth of self-love.
Much Love,
Marilyn ox
