The Paradox of "Not Knowing"

 

Embracing Uncertainty

The shift from summer's embrace to the brisk touch of fall reminds me of life's ever-present paradoxes and endless opportunities. The leaves change color with assured certainty yet present unique, unpredictable patterns each day. Similarly, while we can anticipate the seasons, tomorrow's experiences and challenges remain uncertain. This duality of predictability and mystery brings us to the heart of our topic: finding comfort in places of "not knowing."

This intertwining of predictability and mystery leads us to a profound reflection: the empowering nature of embracing "not knowing."

In our solution-driven world, there's surprising strength in admitting, "I don't know." While it sounds counterintuitive, particularly in professions that prize expertise, consider this: our most profound moments of growth and connection lie in gaining comfort and embracing the unknown.

The philosophy of the "beginner's mind," eloquently shared by Zen teacher Shunryu Suzuki, captures this essence. It speaks of a mindset unclouded by biases and prior judgments, where possibilities are as vast as the universe.

"In the beginner's mind, there are many possibilities; in the expert's mind there are few."

The International Coach Federation (ICF) also acknowledges the importance of this concept in Core Competency 5.5, emphasizing comfort in spaces of "not knowing," highlighting the power of embracing uncertainty in personal and professional spaces.

So, what potential unfolds when we anchor ourselves in the sanctuary of "not knowing"?

 
  1. In places of NOT KNOWING, there are no limitations to what is possible. Fresh perspectives emerge, and novel solutions are discovered.

  2. In places of NOT KNOWING, I approach situations with presence. This presence fosters genuine listening and deeper understanding.

  3. In places of NOT KNOWING, my mind is open and receptive. I become more adaptable and willing to learn from every experience.

  4. In places of NOT KNOWING, I release the burden of expertise. Without the weight of expectations, I can navigate situations with a lighter spirit.

  5. In places of NOT KNOWING, I'm free from the confines of past patterns. This freedom allows for spontaneous and creative responses.

  6. In places of NOT KNOWING, I foster a sense of wonder and curiosity. Every moment becomes an opportunity for exploration and discovery.

  7. In places of NOT KNOWING, I am not attached to outcomes. This detachment can lead to greater equanimity and peace when facing challenges.

  8. In places of NOT KNOWING, I welcome collaboration. Recognizing my gaps allows me to seek and value the knowledge and perspectives of others.

  9. In places of NOT KNOWING, I am reminded of the vastness and mystery of existence, cultivating a sense of awe and reverence for life.

  10. In places of NOT KNOWING, I embrace the journey of continuous growth. Rather than resting on past achievements, I aspire to continuously seek, learn, and evolve.

By remaining present and truly opening ourselves in the space of "not knowing," we unlock boundless opportunities and insights. Reflection:

  • How does "not knowing" resonate with you?

  • What pressures do you impose on yourself to have all the answers?

  • What narratives play in your mind when faced with uncertainties?

  • How might embracing "not knowing" transform your experience of life?

Remember, being in a place of "not knowing" doesn't reflect inadequacy. It's a call to trust in life's journey, welcoming the boundless insights and growth accompanying such trust.

In these ever-evolving times, our shared human experience sparkles the brightest. I invite you to explore the realms of "not knowing" together. I'm here to support you if you want to dive deeper into understanding and embracing this transformative space.

I would love to hear your thoughts.
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With Love and Possibilities, Always, 
Marilyn ox


 

The Gift of Grace and Presence

As we enter yet another New Year with so much uncertainty, the word GRACE and PRESENCE continues to emerge. 

Amidst the many challenges we face today, many outside of our control, wonder continues to surround us.

As a coach, I have this beautiful opportunity to support extraordinary humans navigating broad and varied beliefs, challenges, and dreams. Each with their unique journey, experiences, and perspective while desiring similar outcomes. To live life to the fullest.

So much of what gets in the way is our judgments and perceptions of ourselves others. As humans, we typically notice what is wrong. It makes sense because we're hard-wired for protection. We know the present moment is all there is, so if we're focused on the problem or what is wrong, we miss all that is working and beautiful in the world.

Today, and throughout the New Year, I wish you GRACE.

GRACE loves.
GRACE accepts and understands. 
GRACE acknowledges and releases judgment.
GRACE is present and pure.

Grace means that all of your mistakes now serve a purpose instead of serving shame.
— Brené Brown

I wish you PRESENCE:

PRESENCE to create and be in each moment.
PRESENCE understands that worry and fear doesn't exist here.
PRESENCE describes who we've become and empowers us to decide who we want to be.
PRESENCE deepens relationships with ourselves and others.

Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg

So whatever your beliefs, whatever you love, whatever makes you laugh, whatever brings you joy & peace, may you create it, and may it be all yours today, and throughout this New Year, 2022.

Love & Blessings,
Marilyn 💕


 

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